Spending hundreds a month on a therapist who is trauma informed plus wasted time and money on previous therapists who weren’t.
Addictive behaviors to escape the pain, which directly or indirectly cost money.
Spending parts of your free time and work time self soothing/doing therapy work so you can’t focus properly on career growth
Not being able to achieve high job positions because being with too many people for too long is exhausting and high positions require a lot of social interaction.
Lack of networking, so you end up in a job that may be not ideal, or not as good as it could be.
Because you were gaslighted not to trust your gut feeling and not knowing what your likes and wants are, you end up in a field you actually don’t like. And being good at something you don’t like is very difficult so you end up being mediocre or suffering af. Either way extra costs in psychology or not earning as much as your peers who love their job.
Because you lack boundaries, managers can overwhelm you with work and it’s hard to say no. End up getting burned out. Extra psychology, health costs.
Because you’re scared of being mocked, put down, and lack self confident you don’t speak up at your job so even if you’re really good your skills aren’t that noticed. No increase in salary.
Because you don’t fight for your needs you don’t ask for a raise.
Paying extra for post costs because you want to avoid getting triggers by going physically to the shop.
Because you’re so overwhelmed in your mind, you end up not getting energy for tasks that need it, or forget them, and you may end up paying a fine.
Need to live alone because being with other people can become too tiring – can’t share rent/expenses.
Because you tend to be more introverted you don’t know a lot of tips and tricks that make life so much easier and cheaper, like getting contact of a good dentist, or a good accountant. End up paying more, for worse service.
Because you don’t trust your gut feeling, and are people pleasing, it’s easier to get scammed.
You end up buying stuff you don’t need in hopes of it filling some of the emptiness (and then feel even more empty when that fails).
Stress, emotional exhaustion and inhibition and so on are known causes of physical health problems. Extra healthcare costs and more stress and another task to think of. May also cost a day off from work here and there. Which in turn makes us even more tired for lack of resting.